Man:
I do.
Woman:
I do.
Officiate:
Marriage is considered by this community to be a joining of your life energies. Thus, henceforth all that you
each come to own will belong to you jointly. If you someday, for any reason, choose to divorce, your marital
estate will be divided equitably between you. Do you each consent to this legal merging of your resources? ¹
Man:
I do.
Woman:
I do.
Officiate:
This community recognizes the right of every individual to enter into a marital partnership of his/her own
choosing. This community also recognizes an individual's right to terminate a marital partnership in the event
that he/she concludes the marriage has reached a state of incompatibility, and is no longer capable of meeting
his/her needs. As a representative of this community, I need to ask each of you to pledge, as you enter this
marriage, that if you ever decide to sever this union you will do so with due respect for one another. I need to
also ask you to promise that if you divorce you will participate in a termination process so that both of you are
able to come to an understanding of why the relationship is no longer workable.
Officiate:
______, do you hereby publicly declare that if you ever decide to sever this bond of marriage that you will
treat ______ with honesty and respect during that process?
Man:
I dream that this love of ours will last till we are parted by death. Yet I know I must talk of the future as a
hope, an aspiration I move towards. I must acknowledge that the future is a mystery; the pages of which will
unfold slowly, day to day, year to year. However, you can have faith that if I ever choose to terminate this
marital partnership, I will do so with the same loving concern for you as a person that I have as I enter this
marriage.
With all of you as witnesses, I pledge that, if I ever find it necessary to terminate this marital relationship, I
will treat ______ with fairness, honesty and due respect through the process of separation.
Officiate:
______, do you hereby publicly declare that if you ever decide to sever this bond of marriage that you will
treat ______ with honesty and respect during that process?
Woman:
______, I promise that if I ever leave you, it will only be because we have exhausted all hope and
possibility of healing the rifts between us. If I ever sever this bond of marriage, you can trust even that parting
will be an act of love. I will only leave you if I come to know in my heart that we have traveled as far as we
were meant to travel together, and that to hold on would be to smother the deeper calling of our souls. If we
ever decide we must divorce, I promise to do all in my power to make that transition as painless as possible.
Officiate:
Will the witnesses please step forward?
Officiate:
Are you willing to endorse the sincerity and positive intention of ______ and ______ towards one another
in entering into this marital union?
Witness #1:
I am.
Officiate:
Would you like to say a few words on behalf of ______ and ______? ²
Witness #1:
[This person can read a poem, sing a song, talk about his/her experiences with the couple, offer wellwishes/
blessings, etc.]
Officiate:
Are you willing to endorse the sincerity and positive intention of ______ and ______ towards one another
in entering into this marital union?
Witness #2:
I am.
Officiate:
Would you like to speak on behalf of this union?
Witness #2:
[Again, this is an opportunity for a friend or family member to participate in the ceremony by adding
his/her perspective about the couple's relationship.]
Officiate:
It is apparent from the words of those who know and love you, that you have a very deep love and passion
for one another. It also sounds as though you have put a lot of thought into this decision to marry, and enter this
union with maturity and integrity. I hear that your relationship has a strong foundation of trust, openness, and
respect for one another as unique individuals. Will you both please step forward to take your marriage vows?
Man:
______, I hereby take thee as my partner. Please accept this ring as a symbol of my love. I ask you to wear
it in honor and remembrance of the vows and commitments we have exchanged here today. ³
Woman:
______, I hereby take thee as my partner. Please accept this ring as a symbol of my love. I ask you to wear
it in honor and remembrance of the vows and commitments we have exchanged here today.
Officiate:
By the power invested in me by this community I now pronounce you partners in marriage.
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