Satisfying Sexuality
Developing more satisfying
personal expressions of sexuality
Susan M. Mumm, MA
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Being a mental health professional is a challenge sometimes. It is sometimes difficult to try and offer
opinions, without coming off as having an “I am an expert and know all the answers” kind of attitude. In
regards to sexuality in particular, I at times ask myself; “Do I really have any right trying to define what
“good sex” and “bad sex” is? Isn’t that always a personal determination? To some degree, it is personal,
but I have come to believe that, in fact, there does seem to be some universal wisdom that can be taught
about sexuality. I don’t claim to have the “be all” and “end all” answers about sexuality, if I did, I’d be a
much more famous (and richer) author than I am. However, I do think I’ve accumulated some valuable
insights which I will outline in this article.
I have interviewed men and women of all ages, from many different walks of life for over thirty years.
I had a lot of curiosity about the topic of sexuality long before I was a professional counselor. I was
always eager to engage any willing person in conversation about sex. What I discovered again and again
from my discussions with people, is that a substantial number of people are not as satisfied with their sex
lives as they would like to be and some people will even openly admit to being downright unhappy with
their sex lives. So I’m hoping I can offer some wisdom to help people develop more satisfying
expressions of their sexuality.
I think it makes sense to start this discussion with a brief historical summary. The concept of
“Satisfying Sexuality” is a relatively new concept for humanity. In centuries past, people did not spend
much time and energy discussing their various options for sexual/romantic relationships and encounters.
Peoples’ freedom to explore sexuality was extremely limited for a number of reasons.
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